EXCELLENT BOOKS IF UR SICK OF BEING VICTIMIZED/TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF/ABUSED
Hi Everyone, Im gonna do something real useful here the right way to help people, in a positive, non-dangerous, practical way that Doesnt put myself at risk to have my kindness exploited/taken advantage of again...
ok they say the best way to help people is to Help a person help themselves, ok here goes I recommend and in my opinion, that everyone should PLEASE TAKE HEED AND READ THESE BOOKS! THEY COULD SAVE YOUR LIFE (or at least save a big problem later)! THEY ARE ESSENTIAL FOR SURVIVAL MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/PHYSICALLY IN A DANGEROUS ENVIRONMENT (what would you do if...?) and disturbingly accurate and give a large dose of reality (hey better to know the truth no matter what it is and how scary cuz at least you will be able to identify and know to prepare for what you are dealing with as opposed to the unknown which is much scarier cuz u dont know what ur dealing with-being prepared and expecting it is key!).
good books for survival, especially on the streets, so u dont become some conartist's sucker or predator's victim:
1)The Gift of Fear Survival Signs That Protect Us From Violence
-Gavin De Becker.
Runs a firm on predicting violence and protecting people from it. Exciting, insightful and captivating!
Could have emphasized other techniques con artists/criminals use to trick/lure victims like: emphasizing common ground, using flattery, much older persons targeting younger persons, how to identify victims and how predators prey on damaged people (like sexual abuse etc) and exploit their vulnerabilities. still covers lots of information.
2) Strong On Defense
-forget 1st name, last is Strong.
A SanDiego Police detective shares his insight. Very comprehensive, thorough, easy, logical read. Breaks down the criminal mind and shows how dangerous this world can really be so we'd better be prepared. very detailed, percise, easy to understand. Scary, but a relief to know what ur dealing with!
3)Where You End and I Begin: BOUNDARIES
4)Where to Draw the Line: setting healthy boundaries every day
excellent on emphasizing the importance of healthy boundaries and how to create them and stick to them for protection. POEPLE WILL RESPECT YOU WHEN THEY CAN'T USE YOU. Could have emphasized how when boundaries are set, it shows up a person's true motive and shows if they are willing to change to match the other persons healthy boundaries and way of relating, could have emphasized how when a person Does Not accept the answer "No" then thats when things can Possibly get dangerous and it is a very important warning signal to tell you the person has ulterior motives/wants something else and is trying to control you/the situation.
5) Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Forget Author
. Very good book written by a man who runs a counselling group for abusers and shows the absolutely illogical, retarded and messed up way abusive men think of women and their relation to them and how the man treats the woman - "abusive mentality" (also comparable to the "bum mentality"). Comprehensive so a person can identify abuse right away and very detailed/descriptive
Could have made more clear the "myths" about why abusers act the way they do may not actually be myths-could be other possibilities or opinions. Yes the source of abuse is the way the person thinks/mentality but gotta ask: Where did that mentality come from? the myths seem to fit the Possible origin of where this abusive attitude/mentality comes from-but the abuser still has to change of course-its no excuse-could be confusing. i like the quote: "one needs to know the question before they can find the answer" just like "one needs to know the problem in order to find the solution."
6)Diary of a Crack Addicts Wife
forget author
again very good realistic. based on true story.
coulda emphasized importance of damage to a child who is in this type of situation and the blatant inappropriateness of the expectations and responsibilities and dangers put towards a young child and how it would affect the childs thinking/growth.
7) Women Who Love too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change
8) Letters from Women Who Love too Much...
-both books by Robin Norwood
uses real life examples about severely abusive relationships and why women stay in them and how they cling to the completely unrealistic hope that the man will change.
could have made mention of "not so severe cases" of emotional abuse/manipulation-specifics and not just the most brutal cases.
Dragonslippers: This is What an Abusive Relationship Looks Like
forget author 1st name Roz...
Book drawn in cartoons - very accurate to relate to a woman in abused relationship staying cuz hope it will change.
REFUSE TO BE A VICTIM! ARM YOURSELF WITH KNOWLEDGE!
Get all these books at library
'One who finds good insight will find favor'
'Insight...adds persuasiveness'
Insight...slows down anger'
(Proverbs)
Thanks hope this helps!
KKBIRD
